My ex left me saying that she loves me and i’m the most amazing man she’s ever been with. 4 months later i’m still devastated and she’s pretty happy doing whatever she’s doing. So having looked at her experience, I can probably say “go” because you’ll find somebody else. Nobody’s irreplaceable. I just hope you talked to him about this concerning you and tried to work it out before giving him the news. Communicating this is obviously important because it could just be a phase and you two just have to work it out.

However, I would also question if you actually love him. In my mind, love isn’t doubted or questioned. It sounds like you’re very attached to him, love his company and how he treats you, and you genuinely care for him and… perhaps mistake it for love? If i loved someone I’d never consider leaving them unless we absolutely couldn’t work something out. The thought wouldn’t even enter my mind. I’d also hope that you take away something from the relationship. Why did it fail or is failing? Because if you don’t clearly understand why you’ll likely be dealing with it again.

And finally, here is my perspective from personal experience of being on the receiving end of the same situation. I read the description of your bf and it resonated with me because that’s what my ex was telling about me when she left. I, like your bf, suffocated her with love. I think at the end of the day if you give your lover too much attention it basically fires right back at you. It’s actually more destructive to the relationship than arguments and fighting. It’s completely counter-intuitive but giving 100% of yourself to someone you love is going to hurt. Instead maybe try to focus on your own goals and your own image a bit more. I read somewhere about a study that showed people find their partner more attractive when they seem them do something that they excel at or love (being on a stage, public speaking, writing, etc). It basically rekindles the mystery and the sparks. So focus on yourself before focusing on your partner otherwise you’ll be suffocating them with love that you’re not giving yourself. Good luck to you and I really hope you work it out!