Hello again Jeena,

Uncertainty definitely has a way of making us feel uncomfortable, I feel for you. It seems as if you are saying that you have consciously decided to end the relationship based on the fact that “it’s not real if you cannot meet in person”? Not to be completely pessimistic, but there are many many many online sites where people post photos of themselves. You could have seen photos of anyone.

If he loves you then why doesn’t he want to reduce the distance between you two? Is it really “complicated” when we love someone and want to be near them? You are right – he may have been doing it for your benefit. He may have realized that you were a good person and he did not want to hurt you so he kept you in the dark.

You said “he seems so sure that we’re a match even though we have not met in person”. Perhaps he really believes this, on a more emotional level. It may also be that this is what he wants you to believe, in order to continue the online “thing.” Men, can’t live with them and can’t live without them. I used to say that relationships are tough and they are because they require a lot of work. What I’ve learned recently is that relationships require effort on BOTH sides and they aren’t that tough if both parties are willing to learn and grow TOGETHER. Sending you hugs!