Dear Glet, You just perfectly described her on point. This is exactly here, thinking she is insecure and not good enough to love or receive love. As I was reading thru your message everything you said was true. She has a “moment” where things get serious and close and then after that she distance herself. Then when she cools down and becomes calm, she then searches for me because I give her the space to miss me and to figure things out. I still have hope that things will work out in the end. But at this moment she tells me that she needs to know herself, that she needs to figure things out. If it is truly her that she can’t feel these feelings or if it is me. I believe that it is just a mental block and with her going to therapy that she will get through it. At this moment, she wants friendship with me and that isn’t going to work since we want different things at this time. All I can do is give her the space to realize what she needs to see. What she needs to want and for her to search for me when the time is right.