Well this all happened yesterday. So it is still fresh. The last thing I said was when you know what you really want and figure things out and change your mind then contact me. In the meantime I just came back from the gym, posting here which helps me tremendously because I feel like I am not the only one who had this situation occur or is living it. She had a relationship of 5 years then one of 1.5 years she returned to the one of 5 years for a month and he shattered her heart completely. She has been single for two years before I came along in 2014. The Brazilian culture is are very close and the daughters and sons live with their parents most of the time until they are married. So right now she is not happy living at home, and not happy with her job either. She is very scared of a lot of things. Afraid to fly, afraid of relationships, insecure and negative thoughts. All this seemed to occur after she got disappointed in people.

At this moment I will give her space, and maybe after a few weeks if I haven’t heard from her, perhaps a small text to let her know that I am doing well and I am here for her always. but I would obviously prefer she contacts me when she feels ready. I don’t want to push her away.

Do you think talking to your ex is helping? Or does it just fulfill something emotional for you, the attachment without risking?