It sounds like you have dodged a bullet by getting out of this abusive situation. As Anita said, he’s not a loving person and not in a place to be in a relationship with you. Even though it is hard and painful, just know that with time, being away from him does get easier. For now a few practical tips to help:
1. Cut off contact with him. This mean responding to his contact or initiating contact. This will help you heal faster.
2. Find a friend that you can call if you feel the need to talk or contact him.
3. Focus forward by joining groups (such as meetup.com) and finding new friends who have similar interests to you.
4. Surround yourself with a positive supportive group of friends who can help you though this tough time.
5. Focus on yourself and determining why you were willing to be in this type of a relationship with someone who is verbally abusive. If you don’t figure this out, you are likely to repeat history and attract another man who is the same as your ex. Get a therapist or a coach or some type of professional to assist you through this process.

Best of luck!
~Jodi