Thank you Anita! You have put this so succinctly. I know this, but when it comes to the moment, I feel I engage with her because of my own issues (after all I grew up in the same family, with a mom who was mentally ill but rarely sought help, trusted nobody and was just plain mean!) I have been through lots of psychotherapy and am a School Psychologist by trade. My sister is very opposed to psychotherapy – again trust issues (so weird to hear her downgrade my profession)…she is a lot like my mom, but not quite as mean or unreasonable and can be a delight at times. Thank you validating what I thought but have trouble accepting that I can’t make her be more accepting of who I am!!! She often tells me I am cold and repeatedly tells me how often I have pushed her out of my life.

I have come such a long way and I don’t need this weighing me down but am so tied into rescuing her (been doing it since she was a teenager and I was a young adult). Always my role in the family! I am sure you guessed that! Anyway, I will carry on, because I can! I will have to go back occasionally and read your reply so I don’t forget!!!
Love and Peace,
Carole