So you are saying that your grandmother expressed her opinion about gay people not knowing you are gay? And you want to tell her that you are gay but are afraid of her rejection of you?

You just came out a little while ago, with your father for one. Coming out is a process and it takes time. You are still in that process. It cannot be easy and I for one, from your posts, think you are doing very well with it, especially considering your age.

Did you tell your grandmother? Does she otherwise know? If so, how did she react? Is she really worried about you going to hell? Does she not know that according to Christianity straight people go to hell for not believing in christ? If you do not believe in the Christian tenets, has she been worried already?

About her love for you- will it be lost, is that your concern?

There is nothing wrong with you being homosexual/ gay. There is nothing at all wrong with you for being attracted to the same sex. You deserve respect and love as much as you would if you were straight. Not more and not less. Now, whomever doesn’t believe it, let it be their problem. This is where I see the place of militant gay politics: don’t apologize for being gay. Build this strength inside you that says: I am gay. If you can’t love me or won’t love me because of it, well, bye.

And if she still loves you and doesn’t try to change you then love her all the way. Hey, you are not trying to change her, do you?

anita