Hi avr1962,

It’s OK not to trust people who blew it with you. Forgiveness (though noble) is an inside job. It also helps if the other person knows that what they did was wrong and they ASK you for your forgiveness and at least ACKNOWLEGE that to you. Yes, they are selfish, but that is either in their nature, or they don’t think they did anything wrong OR they don’t think you’d mind.

Instead of being stuck, angry and bitter, put yourself as #1. If THEY put you last on the totem pole, put YOURSELF on top of it. i.e. Blow them off on holidays to go on a cruise with your friends. Redo the kitchen instead of paying for someone’s wedding. That said, Do things that SHOULD be done, not Would or Could be done. Be polite, smile, and say “NO” in peace. You might end up alone, but that beats the alternative, right?

Blessings,

Inky