Hello selfcontained87. I am someone who has dealt with erection problems my whole adult life. I’ve always had low self esteem and a strong “fear of rejection”. I always put tremendous pressure on myself in that I had to perform perfectly as a man should or else I would be rejected. It didn’t help that I failed at my first attempt at sex at age 19 and labeled myself as a total failure. It was always the first time with a new partner that I had problems. If it was somebody I got to know first and knew wouldn’t reject me, I relaxed enough to perform with no problems. I don’t know that I have an answer for you, but hopefully you gained a little more insight from someone who has the same problem. Take care. Jim