Dear Melissa:

In your original post on this thread you wrote: “he had cheated on me four days earlier with the intern at his job and then broke up with me.” I noticed this before but didn’tn bother to address it: I don’t see his cheating. I know you feel that he cheated on you but I don’t see it. Examine this, if you will: four days is a very short time. He met someone and four days later HE broke up with you. This is not cheating, it is changing course.

Cheating would be if he continued the relationship with you and at the same time carried on one with her. If I get it correctly, if that evening in that bar was his first date with the other woman and four days later he broke up with you, he just changed course.

Four days is just too short of a time to establish one as a cheater. If you tell his sister that he cheated on you, the details will be very important because this may not be cheating at all.

anita