Dear Rookie

You’re welcome. Emotions are necessary sources of information about what is real and true and there is a relief when we allign ourselves with what is true. A long term relief and benefit for better and better functioning in life. As to your question about being too eager to have that connection- my answer is: NO. There is nothing wrong or too much about the eagerness you feel for a connection. This eagerness … has a valid message: that you are human. We are genetically built, evolved that way, to be social animals, to connect. Can’t help it. Fact of life, of our natural beings.

How to get into and make win-win relationships is a different kind of question, one that requires more thinking. How do you get the connection that is good for you? When you meet a person, if you are in the habit and practice of seeing the truth in you and around you, you WILL over time evaluate that person and learn who that person is. And you will make that evaluation before you commit to an exclusive relationship with that person or to anything otherwise. You become curious, not only eager. Maybe you become eager to SEE what is there, not only eager to connect. You maintain your eagerness (can’t get rid of what is natural)- but you add an adjective to it: selective eagerness. So WHO the person is becomes very important to the question of whether to get closer to that person- or not.

anita

anita