* nacm86: I don’t think we can be “enough alone”- we are just too social- it is in our genes, a result of millions years of evolution. No way, says I, can I ever be enough alone. It is my prediction that you too, fellow human, will continue to reach out to connect with another person for as long as you live, never enough being alone. I like having realistic expectations, makes life easier.About settling for “good enough”- when you do settle for good enough (good enough is all you can get, isn’t it? I mean ecstasy is not going to be ongoing)-

I suggest taking responsibility for your feelings, your cognition, your behaviors and not expect your partner to fix you, nor will you try to fix him, each taking responsibility for the thing between one own ears, then you can judge if the relationship is good enough.

anita