But these are al just parts of our personalities. They’re not personalitie in their own right – it’s just stuff. Why let these little quirks OWN you?

That’s the bit I cant understand

I hate my teeth and smile -is there a personality for that? I hate talking because I’m convinced no one is really interested so I talk incredibly fast to stop them being bored. is there a personality for that?

I hate big crowds. I get intimidated with certain people for no reason – is there a personality for that? I always feel fat and ugly even though I am perfectly aware I am not – who’s that person?

No! there isn’t! its just the bits of us that go towards making up the whole. all of it is easily work-on-able. I’m not going to be shy forever. I’m not going to talk too fast for ever – tomorrow I’m going to take a deep breath and take a chance with someone I know loves me enough to let me try and talk slowly on a chosen topic

It’s great that you objectivise and separate these factors of you but I’m watching you both… let them own you. really> but you created them , how can they own you?