Dear Nekoshema:

All in moderation, so it is about being judgmental. It is saintly, i.e., not human to be non judgmental- it is for our benefit to evaluate people so to determine the extent of contact with them, to evaluate so to not be hurt by a particular person, for one thing. And there are many ways of getting hurt by another, so evaluating, or judging (evaluating without the negative connotation) is a good thing. Mixing judgments with some tolerance as needed, some empathy when needed or desirable or useful in any way- it is like a dish that requires different ingredients.. in moderation, none at the extreme, so the palate is not overwhelmed.

anita