Jaz
I’m 57 and the definition of “love” has changed for me over the years.
I look back at my younger years with amusement really.
My younger self became infatuated with a girl/woman who became my wife.
Love now is less giddy, less addicted to thrills and spills of a whirlwind romance. We don’t get insecure if we are apart. We have full trust in each other that our feelings won’t change from now on. It’s a relief to get over that insecure stage of “am I good enough for her?” Our love has depth and breadth, I believe. We are soulmates.
So don’t panic. if he is the one, he is the one. It will happen naturally either way. No need to force the issue. Excitement is a drug like adrenalin. It took me a while to learn that. I mean that you need to feel excitement in order to feel love. You don’t. Love is more than a feeling and more than logic or even magic. Love is sometimes not pretty. It can be hard work. But it is worth the effort.