Dear Bluelagoon:

When you come across a person that drinks or drinks too much alcohol and/ or one who does drugs, observe that person, ask him or her questions and learn about their lives, not taking what they say as truth but see what you can learn about how their lives really are. If you examine and learn you will probably see for yourself that drinking and drugging does not make their lives good, that it makes things worse. Don’t take my word for it, or the word of public health ads, examine for yourself.

See beyond the moment: a person who drinks and seems happy, how are they when they come out of the high? You are often not there to see. You only see the cool behavior. But this is so not only regarding drinking and such. You see people happy at the moment and you may think they are often like that but you don’t know how they are in private, at home, when they are alone.

Another point: I wonder if you are bored with yourself playing it safe, doing the right thing…? Maybe you need adventure of some kind, doing something “out of the box”?

anita