Dear Name

The feeling of getting lost is a good sign. it indicates that you are ready to take a leap and move forward. Spiritually speaking this unrest is because the mind, soul and body are not in unison.
There is nothing you cannot achieve. but it needs discipline. Every possibility in within you.
You already have a position in life, in society and in your family. start from there.
do your functions in these positions to the 100%. you will gradually find yourself calming down and having time for other things.
leading people, having charisma is not something you need to learn and operate on. it will come naturally when you become calm and know things for sure from within.
may be a morning meditation and an evening meditation for even 10 minutes to start with is good.
or even chanting a mantra for 10 min is good.
read motivating books and slowly do an inside journey. you need to clear the clutter inside and then when you become peaceful, everything else falls in place.

krishna