After a long time of the Notice-> Disengage routine, their reward, that is my pain and suffering, is diminished and diminished so I take away their motivation, this way. Taking away THEIR motivation, is what will weaken them further and further. In real life what it is, those bullying Inner Selves are neural connections in my brain, easily activated and running automatically once activated. When I disengage, that is shifting my attention FROM the claims of the bullies and my counter claims TO an image of the ocean, what is actually happening is that the neural connections translated into bullying and suffering are WEAKENED over time, literally. Brain plasticity, weakening existing connections and creating and strengthening new connections.

Really, this is the only way. When you abstain from biscuits long enough and successfully (in thought and in action), you weaken the biscuit neural connections and when you walk every day, you create and strengthen a new neural connection.

And when you are in the public speech class so well described in a comment you posted a little while ago, if you manage to somehow relax while you are speaking, take deep breaths, stop- talking, take a break, imagine ex. the ocean, and continue talking, you are weakening the scary public speaking neural connection and create a new connection for public speaking.

I was just attacked by Wilma telling me: you are writing too much. Nobody wants to read this. You have nothing to do with your time but write … get off your ….

Disengage, disengage. See the trees outside.

anita