Dear Maria:

You feel emotionally attached to this man, this is the love you feel, emotional attachment: a comfort when with him, anxiety when separated. Isn’t it? That is what “the heart wants”- comfort, the feeling of safety that comes from being in the presence of the person you are attached to, the person in whose company you associate with comfort.

His age could be a factor in your association between him and comfort, safety.

Not unlike a child’s need to separate from a parent in order to make her own way in the world, you are drawn to making your own way while you still need that comfort. A limbo. One term for the stage is “separation-individuation.”

What do you think?

anita