Dear Mellisa:

I assumed that a talk with the guy will give you answers and therefore reduce your obsessing or even eliminate those. But what you are saying is that you are thinking that talking with him will bring up more questions in your mind, more confusion and more obsessing(?). I didn’t thing of this option and it is completely possible, in which case I understand you not wanting to talk with him. It may not be a good idea at all, after all.

anita