And I mean outside of you support NOT as craig list but effective, supportive of him AND the relationship support, of course. He owes it not only to himself but to YOU to consider the well being of you! It should be a mutual thing: you putting your time and energy in benefiting him- but he needs to do the same. He will feel less guilty and more deserving of you if he too benefits you and the relationship. Give him that job, he needs it. He needs to shoulder some of the work.