Dear Anonymous:

From your writings I formed a feeling of liking you, liking the person that you are. Loving and sensible, honestly looking for answers, taking full responsibility for your thoughts, feelings and actions, trying to better your functioning within yourself and within the relationship. I hope you hire a good enough therapist to match your honesty, curiosity and empathy.

That uncertainty- I suppose some uncertainty is always there because life is so uncertain. My best bet to maximize certainty in my life is to understand myself, what motivates me, what I want and act from that deep understanding, which I hope good therapy will help you explore. And if you find the input here helpful, please do write any time and I will answer.

anita