Dear moonpedal/ reader:

I love this quote from above: “the degree to which we idealise others is inversely proportionate to how low we think of ourselves.”

I agree with “In your mind view everyone as equal” but I disagree with “And have everyone on the same side!”

I also disagree with “IF someone dumps you for someone else, it means they weren’t The Real Deal to begin with!”

Why am I mentioning what I disagree with in another’s comment? This is not what I normally do, but it is important here, the point I am trying to make to anyone who is reading this:

If you walk on a street in East Jerusalem right now, not everyone is going to be on your side and the consequence of assuming that everyone will be on your side is death. Now, on this forum, this very moment, not everyone is on my side. Someone is getting angry with me right this moment, reading these words, and he or she will want to hurt me, a natural response to anger. So he or she will. So, never, ever is anyone in the position in life where everyone is on one’s side. This is a… spiritual myth, a result of expedient, convenient, feel good thinking that is not real and not true.

If someone dumps you, moongal, or dumps anyone it does not mean the dumper was not the real deal to begin with or when dumping. This is another example of expedient, convenient (very convenient) thinking that is not real and is not true- and therefore is doing nothing but disservice following the initial comfort it provides. When a person dumps you, the dumper may very well be the real thing and dump you for a real and valid reason.

Moongal, you wrote: ” Something in my head creates scenarios where my new friend and one of these girls meet, and then my new friend realizes that she is smarter or more charming or more interesting or whatever, and then dumps our friendship.” I have a challenge for you: someone will always be smarter than you, more charming than you at one point or another and more interesting than you (and more this and that), it will be tough to compete with all these. The challenge is how about you being more honest, straightforward, authentic than the others? You will have way less competition in this department than in the others.

anita