About the party in your head with the Inner Selves, problem being the bullying Inner Selves. The bullying Inner Selves work hand in hand with the bullying you listed in the workplace. Bully with Bully unite, kind of a thing. This is why it is so important to work to shrink the those bullying inner selves. The safer you are from them, the less distressed you will be with at least some of the bullying in the workplace and elsewhere.

I was thinking about this very thing you mentioned here, on my long walk this morning. Those with low self-esteem tend to have more and stronger inner bullies to deal with so when they have to confront an external bully, it is just too much. That is why someone with high self-esteem can manage external bullies better; because they manage to quieten the negative internal voices(bullies) so they only have to deal with the external bully.
Mm, I made that sound more complicated than it actually is.. 🙂