Dear voicewriter:

I read your despair and I am confused as to what is going on. Lots of respect you had for him diminished because he put up with the bad way you treated him. That statement confuses me. Was the bad way you treated him a test he had to pass, if he stands up against your disrespect of him he would have passed… Why were you treating him badly? Because your needs were unmet? What and how were those needs unmet, I don’t know. Needs unmet is a term people use and it can mean so many things. When not specific, “needs unmet” is to vague to mean anything to me, to explain anything, to indicate anything…

SO it became a dull, loveless relationship AND you fear it was the “best thing (you) ever had”- see the contradiction here?

Are you referring to the beginning of the relationship as “the best thing you ever had? Well, you already lost that because it ended being loveless, so you write.

If you would like to clarify, please do. I would like to understand.

And what is the difference between Frustrated and angry (You wrote you were the first but not the second)?

anita