Dear Unavailable:

As to your question: ” I asked her and she told me everything about why she is afraid of that happening. Do you want me to tell you those reasons? Would it help you help me figure it out a little better?”

Yes, please do. It will help you to figure it out a little better!

(You know the saying “ignorance is a bliss”? Not true: awareness is a bliss- it often feels distressing in the beginning but long term, awareness- knowing what is going on- is way better, preventing lots of future misery)

anita