Dear RecoveringPerfectionist:

There is MORE to the journey of your healing and evolving. You started it, got on the path… and now, there is simply more. I think there is always more, that is the nature of living if you remain awake and aware.

What is that MORE right now?

The earliest experience you mentioned in trying to please your parents is working hard on getting good grades at university. Maybe the More i am referring to is going further back in your life, going back to the little boy that you were (and are) and how it was that you got the message that you are not good enough being you. How and where you got the message that you have to be an accomplished human doing to be of value to them and being a human being not valuable?

I am thinking that getting more in touch with that hurt little boy, feeling his hurt, empathizing with him… that process, that next part of the journey will give you a sense of value in just being, being a human being. It is not a philosophical question or process- that takes you only that far. It is an emotional quest, to get in touch and be that little-boy-rejected.

anita