Dear Courtney:

TriangleSun in asking how you didn’t know you were incompatible with they guy you dated for five years made me think. I think it is a good point.

In a comment I made to you on another thread this morning I asked you what you learned from that relationship. Did you read it.

You wrote there that the guy of five years metaphorically threw a nuclear bomb on what you built for five years.

But now, in the post above, you wrote that you “argued constantly”- so there were bombs along the way, the whole five years…

What I see is lack of insight. As pretty as you do look in the photo and as hard as you tried on online dating, there is something missing and that is understanding of yourself, knowing yourself… more precisely, being CONFIDENT about what you do know about yourself. You may be ignoring YOU as you try to “pass a test” to make a relationship work.

If you agree, please post again. I would like to help if I can.
anita