More: in the example you gave, you wrote: “he texted me and asked how my Thanksgiving was. I responded positively”

How was your Thanksgiving?

What does that have to do with anything, one might wonder? Well, when you responded “positively” does that mean you responded in a way that you figured you are supposed to in order to elicit further communication? Positively, because positive people are the attractive people?

Maybe you had a positive Thanksgiving. Maybe it was not all positive. Would you have mentioned to him something not positive about your Thanksgiving?

In other words, are you REAL, authentic in a relationship or are you making the moves, in the context of a relationship, the moves you think are the right moves to promote a positive result?

anita