Dear ameliau:

If you did not think your ex bf was not good enough as well as boyfriends before him, as was my understanding, and if you texted other guys in his presence only ONCE and stopped when he expressed to you- non violently- how much it bothered him, and if him hitting you that once was part of a repeating violent behavior then stay away from him and be happy he is not interested in having contact with you!

In this case, I hope you learn what you need to learn, one is leaving a relationship before getting involved with another. Learn and once you learn, no reason to hold on to guilt- it should be there only for teaching you something, so that you learn something important for better functioning in the future.

You wrote that you are still finding a way to heal yourself, from what is it you are trying to heal yourself from?

anita