Thank you all for your kind advice, it has been really helpful.

My son is 11. He was bullied from October last year until June this year. It has since stopped but since then he has struggled with a low mood, low self esteem, always says he is ugly/fat, panic attacks and fears when he is out of the house that someone will beat him up. The bullying has stopped now in high school and he is doing really well but all these things have continued. We are intouch wiht school very closely and there are no bullying issues but his panic attacks effect him mostly in school. I wish it would stop for him, the bullying hast stopped but all these issues have left a deep impression and not left him, my poor boy. He has had an assessment at the childrens mental health team and he was honest and even spoke to them alone and told them it all began after the bullying and also since I cut out members of my family he has missed his aunties and cousins. Which tears me apart because my siblings were violent and toxic and I had to cut them out for our families sake. Now I worry I did wrong by him because for 3 years it’s just been the 5 of us (hubby, his siblings and I) and I worry I have let him down. My brother was violent and hit my husband and a year later chased after me, police involved both times and he was diagnosed with a serious mental health illness. My GP and friends all said I did the right thing cutting him out but as a result my mum and sisters cut me out because they said I was being unfair, my brother was ill and I should have given him a third chance. I could not risk that. After he attacked me I became agoraphobic for a while, I am now fine and go out. I still have some anxiety issues but I am happy. I cope with them.

Have i let my son down?