Dear Inky:

Very interesting. In another post a while ago you wrote that he doesn’t want to spend time with your family, your children. That is a blessing. Not a blessing in disguise but a clear cut blessing. Why he has ill will for his blood family but not for his non blood family… Maybe he is thinking that he is genetically faulty, inferior, doomed to fail. Therefore he figures his offspring are also doomed to fail. if his child or grandchild succeeds it is suggestive in his mind that maybe he doesn’t have the genetic justification for his failure. This is only a guess.

His behavior is odd for as long as one doesn’t know his motivation. Once that is known it becomes: oh, that’s what it is and was all along, oh I see…

anita