Dear Lauren:

You are welcome. You wrote: “my boyfriend is a grown man, i will never tell him what he can and cannot do. Just give him suggestions and hope that hes smart enough to make the right decisions.”

This is a good idea, to wait and see, if this is what you mean, wait and see if he does make the right decision about that woman. You already communicated to him what you feel about her and about his contact with her. He agreed with your evaluations and wants to distant himself from her. Now do watch and see, over time, if indeed he distanced himself from her. He probably would and problem solved. If he keeps contact with her though, your problem will be with him, not with her…?

anita