Dear Virginia,
Thank you for your post and you are correct I was focusing on my husband rather than myself and that is what broke me. And I let him take my power and I realised that last year and started to heal myself and focus more on what I want and what I use to like doing when I was young. I started going to a netball class and yoga to meet new people and I am going to a meditation group this Sunday.
I write in a journal my hopes and dreams and also my resentment so I let go of in in more a positive way rather than an angry way.
I have started looking after myself more and doing what I want to do rather than what was best for the marriage as that is what made me feel resentful as I was compromising my true self and lost what I stood for.
Your words have been very helpful and supportive and I like to thank you for your advice and wisdom x