Hi Ritu!
I want to say that i feel very sorry for what happened to you. I don’t want to give my opinion because right now i may be a little subjective because of my recently break up and i’m also sure that your problems and feelings are bigger and more serious than mine, but i understood that you want to move on. Well, for me, the best results i had when i started to share my story, although i have the tendency to cry everytime. But that’s ok. It’s better to let your emotions speak when you feel overwhelmed ’cause i can assure you: the next time you will speak again, you won’t feel the same amount of sadness anymore. DON’T hide your feelings, don’t try to “postpone” them, because they will grow bigger and bigger if you pretend it’s not appropiate to deal with them now. Also, it really helpde me to read a lot of quotes and things on this site. Read about your problems, read how to deal with them, how to be happy by yourself, there are many things you can learn.
Also, i downloaded an app which gives me an hourly notification about forgiving myself and those who hurt me, about moving on and not looking back to what others did to me because i have so many opportunities ahead which i might miss if i keep going back to the past. i strongly recommend this kind of self-encouragement if you think you’re not strong enough to remind yourself some things. i also started to just spend time with myself again and NEVER shrink my wishes because they may not be appropiate. No. I do whatever crosses my mind to just feel better. I even started doing yoga three or four times a week because it relaxes the entire body, therefore the mind follows it.
I’m sorry if i have spoken too much about my own experiences, but i really hope you will find some help there, maybe follow whatever catches your eye to feel better. please try to rebuild your happiness after this trauma, don’t pity yourself, don’t let yourself fall in some dark and sad place because it’s really easy to slide on this path, but it’s one of the hardest road to come back from that place. only you know better what makes you happy, so try to listen to your heart as much as possible. And try to forgive: firstly- for yourself, because you deserve peace and tranquility, secondly- for those who hurt you because they can’t undo what they did. find the power to change your thoughts about this experience, you can’t wait for others to change to make you feel better. avoid feelings like anger, disappointment, regret. they will keep you from making progress. and never think about revenge: worst thing ever. let them be happy if this is how their fate should be. who says you can’t be happy as well, even without him? i understand it doesn’t feel fair to you, but i’m sure you have greater things in your future then worry or think how often they smile, how happy they are or other things. they just are how they are and you have no power, so you shoulnd’t think about them in any way. instead, there are a lot of things which you can control in your mind to feel better, so start from there and work your way to the very top of joy.
Move on and rediscover yourself!
please, get better.