Anita,

I am a poor communicator when it comes to talking about my problems. I feel that one of my biggest faults is that I rarely ask for help. I admit that it makes me uncomfortable to burden those that are close to me with problems that I’m going through, and I have a tendency to keep my troubles inside, hoping they’ll eventually resolve on their own or that they’ll simply go away. It’s funny, but I’ve noticed that I am more than willing to sit down with a friend and ask how they are doing with their troubles, but when I’m asked, I smile and tell them everything is ok (when in reality, it isn’t). I think this is one of the reasons why I tend to get so overwhelmed when something “bad” happens to me. It’s just layers upon layers of troubles that I never took care of, attacking me all at once, and then boom! – my entire world is flipped upside down…I lose myself, and I have no idea where to begin in order to repair the damage.

What you wrote isn’t easy for me to relate to, but it’s interesting to examine my “failures” in a different light. After giving it some thought, I’m beginning to feel like we both just didn’t understand each other…and maybe that is why our relationship failed. Perhaps we weren’t compatible at all. Maybe it was just infatuation, and nothing more than the feeling of excitement due to being in a relationship again. Who knows.

Until next time…

– Jenny