Dear Jen:

As I read your post, I got curious. You wrote that you “always want to confront problems head on” and yet, for ten years, there were problems again and again. You mentioned some of these problems: him cheating, lying, abusing you emotionally and you mentioned (what I see as a problem): you taking him back again and again with no effective resolution of his problematic behaviors.

I am curious about what kinds of problems you are referring to when you wrote you confront such head on… and are you aware of problems, of a different kind maybe, that you do not confront.. and that need to be confronted?

anita