Dear Lily:

When you were a child, Lily, did your parent or parents respect your privacy, your space? Or did they enter your room, if you had one, at any time, without knocking, maybe even entered the bathroom while you were using it without asking. Maybe looking into your things at any time, not asking for permission. Maybe they treated you as if you were a thing, not a person with rights. Maybe what you wanted didn’t matter to them, was not a consideration. What Lily wanted didn’t matter…is any of it correct? These are examples, can you relate?

Waiting for your answer. I very much want to have an exchange here with you and I think I may be able to help you some in examining and understanding what happened with this guy.

anita