Hi Ladybug,

I had a similar thing happen to me a couple weeks ago. My DD and I were on our way to the hairdressers and the cell phone rang. My step mother (who never/rarely calls) wanted me to get down there and see them (!!!). We were legitimately busy as DD was getting highlights so we planned for tomorrow AM.

Well, then my DS’s Special Ed teacher wanted a meeting and of course the only time before the midterms she could meet was that very morning!!

I called the ‘rents and said I was sending my DD down and then I explained my situation. I could feel the disappointment in their voices. I felt truly bad, but then I thought… WAIT!! Half my life I have been angry because they NEVER pick up the phone to see me or the kids. Unless it’s the holidays or they want something! We ALWAYS have to come to them! And then on the rare (RARE!) time they call me I am legitimately busy they are disappointed and sad and perhaps think I’m putting them off?

GOOD! GOOD!! Let them miss me!

Let your Dad miss you. And don’t look a gift horse in the mouth. Maybe your mom really did tell him to do this. Look, the point is he did it! Schedule for another day, let him miss you and LOOK FORWARD to the meeting! Then go have coffee and have a nice time! If you feel really angry, cut the coffee short (the beauty of going out for coffee).

Good Luck,

Inky