Dear John:

When you wrote that you can’t hurt him, your friend, I think that you see yourself in him, that is you see your own hurt in him, projecting it into him, so when you can’t hurt him, it is like you are seeing the boy that you were who was so hurt.

You would be able to let him go once (over time) you realize it is your own hurt that is fueling your attachment to him and once (with time and maybe good psychotherapy), you process and release your own hurt.

Take care:

anita