Dear Amy:

I am highly motivated to help you in context of this forum. Not only because I would like you to not be in the distress you are in, but because of your child. Is it a he or a she…I’ll refer to your child as “he” unless you correct me. At five years old is about when a lot of hell broke loose in my own life. I have a deep understanding how painful it was for me- and is for any child- to be growing up with a mother who is not there for the child, too distressed to be available…

You, Amy, may be the most motivated, well meaning, good person in the world, but if you are distressed, especially on an ongoing basis, your child is in danger. For it is not just about being physically healthy (you stated that about your child) but about being mentally healthy… and the two are not separate.

This is my motivation, so I am here, available to you for as much and as long as you would like me, personally, to be here for you, as many posts as it takes. And always your choice.

In your last post I see how occupied you are and have been with that man. He takes such priority in your mind, and that priority, unfortunately, places your child in a lower priority, unattended. Similar to the year you were drinking and neglecting your child… now it is not alcohol, it is that man that you are focusing on.

The way I see it, your focus needs to shift and so your investment. It is not about that man: your life and the life of your child should not be about that man, it should be about you and your child.

Till your next thoughts…
anita