Floralina

I can kind of relate to this issue. Your friend sounds a lot like my friend – we were best friends in secondary school but we lost contact – I would try to stay in touch and find out how she was doing but she wouldn’t return my calls. On a few occasions we even passed each other in the street or waiting for the same bus at the bus station and she just completely disregarded me. A few years later through the magic of Facebook, she reappeared in my life – “We should really meet up again!” We did and at first it felt like nothing had changed in our lives, but in the four years she had been out of my life she had gotten married (she was 19 at the time) and was subsequently going through a divorce because her husband had cheated. She started making more promises – “Let’s be friends again and hang out more” but when I called her up on it, she would either flake at the last minute or just not bother answering my calls. I decided she was an unreliable and untrustworthy friend so I just stopped bothering with her. From what I’ve heard she has since gave birth – she did have my number at the time but clearly didn’t feel this was important enough to share with me.

You think you know somebody really well but it turns out you don’t!

The point I’m trying to make here is – friendship is a two-way street, effort from both parties is required for the friendship to work out. Friends are supposed to keep each other in the loop on what is going on with their lives and not withhold important information, and getting engaged and having a child seems pretty significant! You said your friend kept on making excuses – just like my friend. Excuses that aren’t good enough.

I know it doesn’t feel great when a friendship ends but this friend of yours seems like a person who has taken you for granted, and just bothers with people only when it suits them. You deserve so much better – like any relationship, you are going to feel sad, upset and resentful when it is over but after a while those feelings will soon diminish.

I hope this helps

Joe