Floralina,

Don’t feel bad for distancing yourself. That is the best thing you can do, because while you see her as a close friend, she obviously doesn’t see you that way.

I had a friend like that. However, me and her had been best friends since elementary school. Our friendship continued all throughout high school. However when I got a boyfriend we communicated less and less each time. While we were still friends and talked, texted each other, talked on the phone, hung out, we just weren’t confiding in each other as much. After my boyfriend and I broke up we got to talking more and she finally told me she had been seeing someone. She kept me in the loop, but once again it wasn’t like before. It took a while before she finally told us she got engaged. After that she finally opened up again and started talking about her fiance and their plans. I was invited to her wedding, but I felt left out because everyone there was someone from her church or family. After that, we drifted apart again. She didn’t tell me she was pregnant with twins, and I wasn’t invited to her baby shower. Even when I texted her, our conversations would be brief. I had to find out all those things through Facebook. She distanced herself, I guess she felt very different from me, and I suppose I understand. Here she is, married with twins, and here I am, in college, not married or dating, and no children. I guess what I am trying to say is, we don’t have much in common, and life gets in the way.

While you made all the effort, she didn’t make any, and that is not fair. Your friendship with her is rather one sided. You need better friends than that. Ones who will confide in you as much as you confide in them.

If it doesn’t bother her it is because she simply does not value your friendship as much as you value hers. It’s sad, but it’s better for you to step away now, rather than later.