Hello J,

Im so sorry you are going through this. I know hard difficult a lost friendship can be. However I do feel the need to ask: why was this person ever your friend? I dont hear you say once in this article good things that came from this friendship. The point of friendship is to add quality and companionship to your life. Friendships should never be forced or exhausting. Of course people occasionally fight or disagree, but if someone is constantly irritating you, making you feel bad about yourself, what is the purpose of having them in your life at all?

Clearly there are a lot of hurt feelings here. It sounds to me you were both incompatible as friends for each other, and that is an okay thing to recognize. Much like one would advise you in a relationship, I would suggest you cut ties. When you continue to call your ex, all you do is continue to hurt yourself. It’s easier to let them go and move on with your life. Think about it. Is there really any explanation he could give you that would make you feel less angry? All youre doing by being angry is hurting yourself. While you sit there reeling in anger, he is out living his life. I suggest you do the same. Move on. Make better friends. Enjoy your life. It’s just too short to spend on someone who makes you this unhappy.

I hope this has helped at least a little bit. I do understand how it feels. I have lost good friends in the past as well, and sometimes it still bothers me. But at the end of the day, I know having them in my life was significantly worse than living a life without them.