Dear Serendipityj,

As everyone knows the saying “Whatever is meant to be, will eventually be. If not, then it was never meant to be.” That is your situation. She is clearly not ready to let go of her ex, and it is has nothing to do with you. This is strictly her problem. It takes every single person a different amount of time to let go of the past. It may take her a bit longer. She hasn’t gotten her closure yet. She can continue to open the door for her ex and fight with him. She can can continue to push you away. Do I think she may have feelings for you? Yes, in a way, but she is 100% not ready for it.

Lay low. Do not contact her until she contacts you. Move forward with YOUR life. If she contacts you, move forward with her. Put the ball in her court, and quit relying on yourself to change things. Accept that things are the way they are. Acceptance is key to moving forward with your life. Just let it be. It will work out for you, I promise!

El