Dear Allison:

I hope you are still feeling better, judging by the smiley face in your yesterday post.

If he is not talking and chooses to not talk, to not share the why- then there is no way for you to know, no information to evaluate for truth that there may be there. You can only guess and then, from personal experience, you are more likely to guess wrong, not a good pursuit. So I agree with the advice given and taken by you, to focus on yourself and your life moving forward.

And one thing, just came to my mind, that you can possibly learn from this: did you notice lack of communication from him earlier? If yes, or no- it is probably a good idea to pay attention with the next guy to the following:

Does he (the next guy) becomes withdrawn and uncommunicative following a problem, shutting down? Following a small problem..? This is a good indication to how he will deal with a bigger problem. Then you can adjust your expectations and choose how close or not you want to get to a guy who will disenge when there is a problem instead of confronting and dealing with the problem.

anita