Dear dfh:

I believe it is wise, what you are doing, to let her be distant for a while, since it is the nature of atoms and people, just let it be. Chances are she will move closer to you in time. I used to put pressure on people in the past with the intent of being helpful. I realize now that people need to feel comfortable, safe in communication with me and that is a pre- condition to be helpful. Only if a person feels non threatened by me, not pressured, respected, then he or she will be open to whatever help I may be able to give. I am also more aware now that only Win-Win interactions and relationships with people work. So when you wrote you miss her company, it means to me that there has been a Win for you too. So, it has been a good relationship with her so far, is my understanding.

Please post again with thoughts and updates…

anita