Dear Kman:

As I read the back and forth conversation, very quickly it became clear to me that she was angry and you were calm. She was angry from the beginning and throughout: angry at you, angry at Taha, angry at herself… angry at a lot of people.

You repeated to her the point: don’t worry, I (Kman) am not upset, missing the point that she is not worried about you getting upset, she is upset herself.

She obviously told Taha things she doesn’t want you to know, and is trying to minimize the effect of what she said by telling you ahead of time that she said this or that. Obviously she expresses her anger to different people, you included, in this conversation. She expresses her anger at you to Taha and she expresses her anger at others… to you.

She is probably angry at one or more of her “close” family members, have ongoing serious conflict with one or more family members, unresolved conflict that spills into her relationships and interactions with you and with everyone else.

What do you think so far about what I wrote?

anita