If I spoke to him and said “hey, I want zero contact with you”, he would be 100% on board IF (and that is a HUGE “IF”) it didn’t interfere in the slightest with his one on one time with his child. In fact, his reasoning for not attending appointments and birthdays and concerts, etc. is because… And I quote; “I never want to ever be where you are”. I’ve spent the last 6 years on his back about his drinking and lack of parental responsibility, so I (sort of) don’t blame him for feeling that way. Every time we talk we fight, and every time it’s about his shortcomings.

The problem is, one of the main reasons I initiated legal proceedings is due to his sudden lack of interest in my child’s life outside his 48 hours of visitation. My case weighs very heavily on that fact. I don’t have any solid evidence of his drinking behaviour, so it’s really all I have to prove he has very little interest in the wellbeing of his child. I can’t very well go in there and say “I want him to be more involved with my child’s life, BUT, I don’t want him to attend any special events where I will be present… It just doesn’t make any sense, because I have been at all past, and WILL be at all future events. Then there’s drop offs and pick ups, phone conversations, etc. unless I have a restraining or intervention order on him, I have no choice.