Dear Billy:

I am so glad you talked to your priest friend and that he encouraged you and that you feel better!

What I meant by “saint” is a perfect human, which is a contradiction of terms. Humans are not perfect and yet in previous posts it seems like you expect yourself to be perfect. You expect the impossible of yourself and that can only bring you heartache and suffering. You have to allow yourself the imperfections that all humans share, even the Saints you mentioned. Set yourself free from the tight leash of perfection. It is admirable that you aspire to be the most decent, honest man you can be, but it will only bring you sickness to take that aspiration too far, far into what is simply not possible.

When you get anxious, look for comfort in your priest friend and maybe other people in the church, a counselor there… someone who will counsel you and your fiance. I thought marriage counseling is something done in the Catholic church.

Please do post again, with updates and sharing of any kind. I will answer every post of yours.

Take care of yourself!

anita